I was talking to a friend recently about, well, “attraction”. She was being very girly and rating boys in our year in order “fitness” (She really isn’t shallow at all, she was just joking). She asked my opinion on certain boys and I just couldn’t see it…I’ve been thinking and here’s my therory.
I can’t find someone beautiful unless I like them. Just in general. For girls too – In my opinion, my friends are the prettiest in the school…I know most people can still see someone they don’t like and be attracted but I don’t get it…
Don’t get me wrong I understand societies standardised signs of “beauty” and can say “They are decent looking” but if I dislike their personalities I just see every little flaw and if I really can’t find any obious ones, it’s their eyes. if someone doesn’t have warm, inviting eyes then how can you find them good looking?
I also have noticed that if I’m not friends wth someone I can’t picture what they look like even if I see them everyday. This is weird as I love “people watching” but I focus mainly on body language and expression. I think it may be a shy thing – that I am afraid to make awkward eye-contact.
I don’t know if this is normal but I think it’s a good thing. I guess looks should be less of a focus. Does anyone else feel like this?
“Is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me”